preheat oven to 350, and line a 6" cake pan with parchment paper on the bottom.
In a large bowl, beat together the grass fed butter, coconut oil, and sweetener until creamy (I used a Kitchen Aid)
Add the coconut extract and egg and beat until combined
Sprinkle the four, salt, baking soda, and coconut flakes evenly over the top
Start to beat everything together while streaming in the coconut milk
Beat until fully combined (but do not over mix)
Place mixture in the small pan, place on a small baking sheet and bake for 36-38 minutes
Use a tooth pick to ensure it is done. Cool on a wire rack, and cool enough to touch, dump on a plate and peel of parchment paper. Turn right side up
For frosting, beat together the grass fed butter, coconut oil and cream cheese
Start adding the powdered sweetener while beating slowly
Place the sweetened coconut into the frosting and use rest on top